Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, 2 when they see your respectful and pure conduct. 3 Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— 4 but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious. 5 For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their own husbands, 6 as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord. And you are her children, if you do good and do not fear anything that is frightening (1 Peter 3:1-6).

It is never too early to start thinking about your legacy.

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What do you want to leave your children and the people who know you? I don’t mean physical things. I mean the things that count. The life and death things. As Christian women, we need to leave our children a legacy of faith.

Genesis 12 through 23 reveals how Sarah lived out her faith and how that translated in a legacy of faith for Isaac.

The Holy Spirit is very gracious in showing this incredible woman’s failings and lapses of faith as well as her successes, so that we don’t think, “Sarah was a superwoman! I can never be like her.” Sarah wasn’t a perfect woman, but her God was.

We all have our lapses of faith. But, like God was gracious to Abraham and Sarah, so he is to us. I think Sarah must have had many quiet repentant moments inside her tent that were wholly between her and God and not recorded for us. But what is recorded leaves us a picture of a faithful, holy woman. That is what Peter called her in 1 Peter 3:5.

Isaac, her son, must have heard the story of God speaking to Abraham and telling him to leave everything, pack up and hit the trail with God as his GPS. He heard how Sarah had downsized and followed his father. How she had gone from a well-supplied home to living in tents.

Isaac must have heard over and over again about her long wait for him. How God had promised and how He had delivered.

He saw her obedience to Abraham and perhaps heard how Abraham had asked her to say she was his sister when he felt threatened and how Sarah had obeyed at great risk to herself. Remember, Isaac did the same in Genesis 26.

She must have lived a fearless life before him knowing that God was able. Isaac was, besides Abraham, closes to his mother and knew her heart; that when the trials and afflictions of life came Sarah demonstrated the “incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit” (1 Peter 3:4).

Isaac must have been able to see God’s blessings upon his mother because her behavior was precious in the sight of God. And most of all he must have sat at her feet and heard her speak of God and her faith.

A good first step in leaving a faithful legacy would be to pattern ourselves after Sarah.

Peter said we are her daughters “if you do good and are not afraid with any terror” (1 Peter 3:6).

She shows us how to pass on a legacy of faith to our children and our family. Some of you have already raised your children and didn’t pass on a legacy of faith either because you didn’t know Jesus or because you just failed to do so.

It is not too late.

Study 1 Peter 3:1-5. See the different attributes of a “holy woman”. Ask God to create these in you. People will notice. Your children will notice.

So even to old age and gray hairs,
O God, do not forsake me,
until I proclaim your might to another generation,
your power to all those to come. (Psalm 71:18).

Mothers, You Are Guarded

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I thought I was done with Mother messages, but yesterday I was reminded once again of Philippians 4:6-7 and, once again, I was grieved by the burdens we carry that destroy our peace.

“Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”

Paul wrote this letter from prison while being guarded by Roman guards. Philippi was a Roman military town. So, Romans soldiers were everywhere. Paul is using a military term when He says the peace of God will guard your hearts and minds.

Guard means that military soldiers are protecting from hostile invasion. So, the peace of God is standing guard around our hearts and minds. He has us covered with shield and sword to repel enemies that threaten our peace.

But, who or what are these enemies we are being protected against?

In Philippians 4:6 it is anxiety.
In Isaiah 26:3 it is unbelief.
In Colossians 3:15 it is disunity.
In John 14:27 it is fear.
In Ephesians 3:19 it is emptiness.

Watcht it! There is also a who.

Peter warned us.
Be of sober spirit, be on the alert. Your adversary, the devil, prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour (I peter 5:8).

This enemy is trying to lure you into anxiety, unbelief, disunity, fear, and emptiness. But, we are being guarded. This enemy can’t get inside our fortress.

(Unless, we are so foolish as to open the door for him. But that’s another message.)

Why can’t he get inside?
Because, the Son of God came to us for the purpose of destroying the works of the devil (1 John 3:8) and to destroy him (Hebrews 2:14).

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So Christ Jesus is our fortress, and we are being guarded by the peace of God from anxiety, unbelief, disunity, fear, and emptiness and the enemy.

Like any responsible inhabitants of a fortress we must do our part. And what is that?

Cast all our burdens, cares, concerns on Jesus because He cares for us. He promised never to leave us or forsake us. We are guarded by the greatest security system in the world.

Dear sister, we are protected, cared for, loved beyond belief. So, be free. Love those around you, care for those around you, forgive those around you, and thank the Son who set you free.

Lay It Down, Mothers

Dear Mothers,
I have been thinking about us all. After listening to my pastor’s message Sunday, I came away grieved at the burdens we mothers sometimes carry that we are not meant to carry. We are not made to carry. We were not created to carry. Especially with adult children.

You mothers of adult children know what I am talking about. Our children have their own path to follow, as my adult child says of her adult children. But, we as mothers naturally want to go before them and clear the way, remove the obstacles, or at least, get them to do it our way. And it that, we pick up burdens we were not made to bear.

We are not ultimately responsible for them; God is. God gave them to us to steward for a few years, but they have always been His. In Ezekiel 18:4, God says: “Behold, all souls are Mine.” The ones who follow Christ and the ones who don’t.

Peter said we are to cast all our anxieties or burdens on Jesus, because He cares for us (1 Peter 5:7). And how do we do that? This is where my pastor’s message comes in.

Philippians 4: 6-7: “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. 7 And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”

Dear Sister, unload that burden!

Lay it down!

Cast it to Jesus.

You weren’t meant to carry it. It is the Lord’s. With a thankful heart in prayer cast your burdens upon the Lord, because He cares for you. And ask Him for that peace that surpasses your ability to describe or understand it.

You may have to do this over and over as the years go by, but that’s okay. Jesus understands. He’s got you … and your kid.

Now, may I say a word to those mothers who haven’t a clue as to what I am talking about, because you have perfect children who never cause you any grief? Good for you. Rejoice!

Happy Mother’s Day, Yesterday

Now that your day of acknowledgement is over I would like to say to all the mothers out there, you have my condolences, my tears, my joys and my prayers. I can’t imagine raising children in this confused, twisted, destructive, chaotic world.

Oh, I exaggerate do I? Really? Have you listened to the news lately?

We are up to our collective armpits in weeds of cultural lies, media lies, politician lies, and even sadly, sometimes church lies as they buy into all the other lies.

Mothers, if you don’t tell your children truth who will?

Now, I am talking to Christian mothers, the rest of you won’t buy into what I am saying. I pray one day you will.

Christian mothers, to speak truth to your children, you have to know it. You need to know what the Bible is saying, understand it, and be able to apply it to everyday life and explain it to your children. If we don’t know the truth, we won’t be able to discern the lies. Satan is the father of lies and he is after your children.

Mothers, put on the whole armor of God and stand firm in the faith (Ephesians 6:10-11).
If you need help (and don’t we all?) get involved with a Bible study at your church or if there isn’t one find one where they teach from the Bible. If you don’t have a church, check out these websites for a church near you: Acts 29 or The Great Commission Collective Church.
Other resources to help in your mission (raising godly children):,, Elyse Fitzpatrick’s book: Give Them Grace, To name a few.

May prayer for you Mamas is:
“May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that by the power of the Holy Spirit you may abound in hope” (Romans 15:13).